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Through my life I have learned from personal lessons (and those of friends) that there is always a wrong and right way to go about handling the boy(s) in your life. First, boys will always be confusing or frustrating to some degree. Whether they’re your dad, your brother, your crush, your boyfriend or your husband, things never change. We’ll never fully understand them but we also aren’t supposed to, just like they’re never going to understand us.

Second, never let a boy (or anyone for that matter) color your future in a negative or unproductive way. Sure it sounds a little cliché but it’s true. You should always make decisions for yourself and make sure that you’re comfortable with those decisions. If they try to force their thoughts or values on you, they clearly don’t have your best intentions in mind.

Third, always put yourself first. You are your number one priority. If you aren’t happy and healthy because of someone else, stop and focus on yourself. As difficult as it may be, especially when it comes to relationships, your well being has to be your main focus.

Fourth, never let a boy make you cry unless they are tears of joy.

Fifth, never let anyone, boy or otherwise, tell you that you aren’t “worth it” or that you can’t achieve something you want to achieve. Those thoughts will only hinder your drive to achieve your goals and make things happen. Use it as motivation if the things that are said to you are hurtful. That should only push you harder.

Last but not least, BREATHE and slow down. Live life to the fullest and make sure that the things you do are to your own benefit. The guy you have a crush on in middle school or high school may end up being your husband or they might not. One never knows. Just don’t go into things thinking that if things end or if he doesn’t notice you it’s the end of the world. It isn’t. Things can ALWAYS get better.


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Comment by Vanesa Herrera on December 8, 2011 at 10:48am

Woow I love this post because its exactly what my thinking is now and always tell others! And i also tell this to guys that try to get wit me jiji




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