Keeping Focused

[Miriam]

I am writing this blog today to create awareness. I just want girls to know the importance of keeping focused and not losing track of what you want in life. You could say I was the typical spoiled brat. I graduated from a catholic school and I was the first person in my family to go to college, so I was even more spoiled! I was a psychology major and on my way to succeed, when I got distracted. My parents never asked anything from me. They gave me a nice car, money, clothes everything I could want, but I wanted more. So, I got a job, part-time flexible and I didn't see school as being that important anymore, it came second. Then my first year of college I met him! The love of my life, my prince charming, everything I could ever want and need. My grades started to suffer because when I wasn't with him I was at work or going out with him. Eventually I snapped out of it and decided to get a job with Disneyworld as an internship where I was going to go there, work at one of the parks and live there! I was excited. He didn't want me to go, he was selfish and I was well, in love (sounds dumb). A few months before I left he did something unexpected, he proposed! Back then I didn't see it this way but that way he convinced me of staying, so I did. I lost out on the oppurtunity of a lifetime! I still kick myself everyday for not going. I should have stayed focused and I would have probably finished my masters by now! GIrls out there... Stay focused! Don't lose sight of your dreams, always put yourself first while you can. Try to learn from other people's mistakes and most importantly be true to yourself! Love yourself and remember that what you want is more important that what some guy your dating wants. A man that truly loves you will want you to grow and experience everything you want to experience.

In closing, girls it's okay to fall in love just please don't lose yourselves!

[Marisol Guzman]

Very good advise Miriam! I completely agree with you! I found myself in a similar situation after I graduated high school, but luckly I was able to come to my senses before it was too late. I too believe that falling in love is awesome but only when that person accepts and supports you for who you are and what your after, not for what he/she wants you to be.

[Rosana Lopez]

Hey Miriam,
very insightful. a lot of times girls limit themselves or think it can only be one or the other, love or education. Even love or a job...but in fact we can do botha nd have both maintatined successfully! thanks for the reminder and sharing your story with us Latinitas!