Relationships

[Amanda Johnson]

Relationships concerning your friends or a boyfriend can be really hard. There are many different elements that go into maintaining a good healthy relationship with a friend or a significant other. I have had some bad and good experiences concerning both of these relationships. When your young finding friends seems to be so easy. You just have to walk out to the jungle gym and boom there you go, you find a friend instantly. When you start getting older though this becomes more difficult. Girls start recognizing themselves more, and start changing to become the image that they want. If your not wearing the right clothes, don't have the right hair, don't have the right makeup, or aren't cool enough some girls might not consider you to be a friend. This is sooo dumb, but this is the sad truth that some teens and maybe even you have had to deal with. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you should change who you are. If these friends that you have try doing this just say no. They weren't worth it to begin with if they have you trying to change who you are, trust me you'll find others who will appreciate you for who you are and who won't judge you. As far as relationships go concerning boyfriends this one is tough. Having a boyfriend in general is stressfull haha but you should still be able to have a healthy relationship with someone you like. Don't let him talk down to you, or try and change you, or worst of all try doing any physical harm to you. No guy is worth your tears if he is doing anything like this to you. Even though at the time you may not realize it, there are MUCH better guys out there that will treat you the way you should be treated. So just always remember to have a good head on your shoulders and be who you are, and never let any guy or friend tell you how you should or shouldn't act!

[Amanda Johnson]

yeah having a relationship and still trying to maintain your friendships is very very hard. I was in a relationship for 4 years and we constantly would fight over me spending too much time with my friends or my friends would tell me they would never see me because I was always with my boyfriend. Its always tough in those situations. You cannot completely ditch your friends though. Relationships are always uncertain and if anything were to ever happen your going to need that support from your friends to help you out. One of my friends has been with this guy for a while also and we rarely see her. Everytime we ask her to hang out she says maybe or makes up an excuse as to why she can't come. If this ever happens with you the best advice I can give you is to just tell the truth to them and not have them guessing if you will come or not. You can gradual start hanging out with your friends again so you don't completely lose them. If your sensing some tension when you do hang out with them just explain to them how you feel, and how hard it is for you to balance both the relationship with your boyfriend and the relationship with your friends. If they are your true friends they will understand and will not care. It's tough but you can do it =)

[Pamela Ponce]

A problem I have had is sort of ditch my friends for my 3 year relationship with my boyfriend.

This is now something i regret :/